Don’t spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I’m only testing you.
Don’t be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it. It lets me know where I stand.
Don’t use force with me. It teaches me that power is all that counts.
Don’t be inconsistent. That confuses me and makes me try harder to get away with everything that I can.
Don’t make promises; you may not be able to keep them. That will discourage my trust in you.
Don’t be too upset when I say, “I hate you!” I don’t mean it, but I want you to know and feel sorry for what you have done to me.
Don’t make me feel smaller than I am. I will make up for it by behaving like a “big shot”.
Don’t do things for me that I can do for myself. It makes me feel like a baby, and I may continue to lean on you when I should be doing things for myself.
Don’t let my “bad habits” get too much attention. It only encourages me to continue.
Don’t correct me in front of other people. I’ll take more notice if you talk quietly with me in private.
Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are huge sins. I have to learn to make mistakes without feeling that I am a worthless person.
Don’t tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
Treat me the way that you treat your friends, then I will be your friend, too.
Anonymous, Late 1970’s